Building Friendships at The Office: Yay or Nay?

Building Friendships at The Office: Yay or Nay?



Hi Guys,

Day 05 has finally come around, the last of my first full work week of 2015 series. I have gotten loads of feedback from you so I know these posts have had impacts. Its funny
how people would rather comment on twitter or messengers as against the comment section. LOL!

Today, we would be talking about making friends at the work place.

Here is an infographic showing the benefits of work friendships..
infographic source



Day 05

I have never been a fan of making friends at work (especially having to carry the relationship outside the office). 

I was at my last job for almost 3 years and it took me 2 years and 4 months to actually open up to others that I had stuff in common with like sex, race and age bracket. I was just busy observing and was extremely content with having a relationship with just my teammates. This relationship I am talking about was strictly based at the office. I always just never enjoyed seeing colleagues socially i.e outside the office.

Fast forward to a bit over 2 years and I had made friends with about 6 people and loved it. There was just something to look forward to asides hitting targets, there were good conversations to be made during lunch and even people to go out to lunch with, new habits to relate with, travel plans, more Metrogypsie supporters, great ideas etc.

Data as seen on the infographic by blog.hubpost.com

– 70% of employees say friends at work is the most crucial element to a happy working life.

– 58% of men would refuse a higher paying job if it meant not getting along with coworkers.


– 74% of women said the same.


– 25% increase in morale and productivity for simple things like larger lunch tables.


– 50% of employees with a best friend at work reported that they feel a strong connection with their company.


– One-third adults has met at least one of their closest friends at work.


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EMPLOYEES THAT HAVE A BEST FRIEND AT WORK;

– 1.4x more likely to receive praise in the last seven days


– benefit 137% more personal development support.

– +35% higher commitment to quality

– 1.3x more likely to receive feedback about their progress in the last six months

– 1.2x more likely to say that they have the opportunity to do what they do best everyday


Managers should be actively encouraging these types of friendships, and should be letting employees chitchat about nothing. It might seem like they are not being productive when they talk, but the data shows that these friendships really matter.


Tools like Officevibe can help strengthen those friendships, by measuring and monitoring employer engagement, and providing tips on how to make it better.


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How To Deal with Office Politics – Small Talk, Fake Smiles.. Grrrr

How To Deal with Office Politics – Small Talk, Fake Smiles.. Grrrr

Hi guys,


How have you found the last 3 days of our series? I got a message from someone saying this series and the brand in general has helped her step up her work style

game. Its always good to read people’s feedback like that, negative, constructive or positive, so thanks for reaching out guys.


Congratulations again to Vivian Aigbe, the winner of the last giveaway, thanks to VintgaeCloset9ja for the gift. The next one should happen by Monday, 12th January.

Today we are going to be talking dealing with office politics. Towards the end of the post, I would also share ways to win at it for those who would want to be a part. Personally in my past jobs bot in Nigeria and in England, I have never be drawn towards participating in such. You may call that a lack of ambition or the drive to move up but I haven’t done badly in promotions either. I just thing it comes with way too much drama so I’d rather be socratic and watch things unwind.

This post would be a combination of information from myself and a couple other articles (lifehack and blog.hubspot).


Day 04

There is barely an organisation out there that doesn’t have politics somehow going on within. I mean you could even have a start-up today with just 2 employees and drama would still find a way to sneak in…be it attitude issues, someone thinking he/she takes things more seriously than the other etc. it is however necessary to know some tips to deal with this.
1. Walk Away/Stay out
This has always been my approach as I said earlier and truthfully, its not that easy. Just walk away from that gossip, ignore that stupid question or basically act like you don’t even get what someone is trying to say when they bring silly talk around you. You may be not be seen as the coolest but this would make your daily decisions more fair.

2. Never start smack talk
Those who start office politics talk may think they have a total hang of things but more often than not everyone knows who they are and when it comes to getting stuff done, they tend to be avoided. Be that person who has a transparent way of making decisions, giving feedback and corrections fairly. This is always noticed and i the correct attitude for people who are to be trusted.

3. Be professional at ALL times.
Did you watch The Apprentice last year, 2014? Bianca Miller was such an epitome of professionalism. To the extent of when she was in the boardroom where everyone gets mental and start throwing each other under the bus, Bianca would just highlight her strong points and the advantages of her own prospective business. She always just shone without biting anyone. That’s always the way to act.


4. If drawn in, act dumb or be quizzical
For example, some comes to tell you a colleague of yours isn’t a good fit for a project.. You should respond by asking why they think so.. Just look confused or lost. Better still you can just nod if its getting unending just to get them off your back.

5. If you just can’t deal anymore, just be direct
“I am not interested in this conversation..”
“I do not know enough to continue with this conversation..”
These are direct way to get yourself over relentless politickers. Truth be told everyone there at the time may feel awkward including you but its best to set yourself aside politics at work and in the long run, best. You would have established yourself as one who stays out of politics at the work place.

As I said, some of you might actually want o participate in office politics. Whatever is worth doing is worth doing well so find below some points towards winning at office politics.


a. Be aware you have a choice
Its either a fight or a flight. Since we are talking wining, then its a fight. Choose your reactions wisely too. The office is a modern jungle and just like animals, we tend to react to issues by fighting, choose wisely.
b. Know your aim
There is always a catch for those who participate in politics at work. Always remind yourself what your ultimate goal is just so you work towards achieving just that so as not to become a serial random gossip/small talker. Also, knowing this would help you avoid conflicts that aren’t yours.

c. Know and focus on your circle of influence
At work there are always situations that would arise and cause issue for you. The obvious reaction is bitching about it or feeling victimised. To avoid this feeling of helplessness especially when its things you can’t control, focus of that which you can.


d. Don’t Take Sides 

e. Ensure You Understand Before Trying To Be Understood


f. It Can Be a Win-Win Situation
As mentioned upfront, political conflicts happen because of conflicting interests. Perhaps due to our schooling, we are taught that to win, someone else needs to lose. Conversely, we are afraid to let someone else win, because it implies losing for us.
Try to undrestand other party’s perspective first as stated above and try to formulate strategies that can benefit both parties.
Also note that a win-lose would definitely occur once in a while too.
External Sources: 
-The Drama-Hater’s Guide to Dealing With Office Politics by Corey Eridon – @Corey_bos on blog.huffspot.com
– 7 Habits To Win In Office Politics by Lawrence Cheok on lifehack.org
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Changes: How To Manage Previous Work Peers

Changes: How To Manage Previous Work Peers



Hi guys,


I was having a conversation with a friend of mine, D, where he was telling me about a colleague (now estranged friend) with whom he started his current job with. 

This mate of his didn’t get promoted when he did and has reacted proper weirdly….so now its so difficult being friends with him because asides the fact they cannot relate based on work duties anymore, his friend doesn’t seem to want to remain friends. 
D literally goes to spend some of his free time at his mate’s office but that still isn’t helping.

When I heard this, I remembered an a case study from a HBR article – about bossing former peers – I had studied in the past and decided to make this our topic for Day 3. This post would basically be a mixture of the article and my thoughts.

For our outfit of the day (OOTD), I embodied the first word in our title, ‘changes’ by changing my footwear. LOL.


Day 03

There are obviously no stringent rules to follow when your former equals become your subordinates, most of how this can be dealt with depends a lot on your leadership style and your type of organisation but find below some steps/ways to make this easier.


a. Start softly: Do not come in with an ego or trying to make drastic changes in your team. Tread lightly. Its okay to change things like the meeting times, your new deputy or a form of team procedure like a roaster. Start with lighter things then when you get to understand your team better you can progress to bigger changes which should be in the best interest of your colleagues.

b. Pull yourself away: Contrary to what my friend above, D, is trying to achieve, experts Sutton and Watkins both believe you shouldn’t be close to ex peers.
“You can’t continue to have relationships in the way you did before. 
This is a loss for everybody but it’s part of the deal,” says Watkins. 

So basically try to reduce your social outings with your subordinates. Also you do not want to be seen as partial so staying clear of unnecessary friendships is recommended.

“If you’re not feeling a little bit lonely and left out, that can be a sign that you’re not distancing yourself enough,” says Sutton.

c. Remember you also now have a new boss: Though our focus here is former mates, its necessary to note that for a credible stand as a new leader you need to develop a good relationship with your new boss as that can pose challenges as well. The progress of your team would always make you look good but a good rapport with your new leader would be very advantageous for you and your teammates.

d. Dealing with the ‘loser’: One of your mates might have been eyeing your new position. This makes the situation more complex. You should either leave things be and let them adjust naturally or according to Watkins say something to them like; “I understand you’re disappointed. You’re an important part of this team, and I’m going to make sure you have what you need to succeed.”LOOL, I might give you the daggers if you tell me this though. *sigh*

e. Try out new personas: Okay so I do not know if this is necessary but the experts think it is so..
(word for word).. Because you need to determine new ways of interacting with your former peers, you’ll likely need to try a few things out. “Nobody is going to get it right the first time,” says Sutton. He suggests you try what INSEAD professor Herminia Ibarra calls “possible selves.” These are subtle variations in how you lead. By experimenting with different ones, you can figure out what works and what doesn’t. Sutton warns that you’re not drastically changing your personality, or your leadership style, but you’re prototyping to see what works for you.

The HBR article was written by Amy Gallo who is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review. Follow her on Twitter at @amyegallo.


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In summary, ease into your new position without making instant drastic changes and try to get honest feedback from your former equals. Remember to develop a good relationship with your new boss and be a credible leader.


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Career Path Choice: BLUE Chip vs SME

Career Path Choice: BLUE Chip vs SME




Hi guys,


I hope you enjoyed day 1 of my first work week of 2015 series. Yesterday’s was few tips on breaking walking through negative situations. On the series today,
we would be talking making a decision between working for a Blue-chip cooperation or an SME (or start-up).

Quick Question: Would you rather be a big fish (eja nla, hello D’banj.. lol) in a small pond or a small fish in an ocean??

On this post, I would just highlight the advantages of both choices and give a final tip at the end of it. As always all that talk would be mixed up with pictures from the Outfit Of The Day which relates to our topic somehow. Lol, exciting times.

As my social media friend, Grace Alex, @T2pitchy said in one of her posts I saw today, ‘I want to be able to tell visual stories worth sharing. I believe that any outfit of the day (OOTD) picture is as good as the stories we tell with it.‘ This is so what we are doing with the Work Series thing so I found it so interesting when I saw her caption. Also, this was the reason we did ‘inspirations’ for every look of people we featured for over a year when this blog started.


Day 02

The first struggle after graduation is usually getting that job offer in the first place. On this feature, we are going to assume that ‘wahala’ has been overcome and we are even spoiled for choice between a big and great company and a small/medium one.

Working with a Blue-Chip company has advantages like;

– Structure: These companies usually have been inexistent for a long time so there is a good plan for how graduates settle in and work across various departments and all that.

– Benefits: Things like healthcare, pension scheme and even better pay are usually associated with this organisations.

– Higher level of resources like trainings, opportunity to garner overseas experience at their other branches/offices. Stuff like this increase the technical know-how of its employers and their skills and exposure as well.

– Ability to withstand economic crisis thereby giving you a higher sense of job security should a melt-down occur.

For Small/Medium enterprises, these are some advantages;

– Wider experience opportunity in a shorter time compared to a Blue-Chip company due to the vast amount of responsibility that might be given to you. This is a good thing because you learn really fast on the job and you know or are even connected to how other aspects of the business are carried out really quickly to enable better relationship amongst departments

– Much more easy to get flexible work hours that suit you. There is a research that was carried out by the Trade Union Congress that found out that employers at SMEs were less stressed and less likely to be bullied

– Lastly, your impact is more likely to be felt when working with an SME.

All that being said, to be honest, if faced with the choice of these two – except in a situation where the role gotten at the Blue-chip company or the company itself isn’t in the same direction as your career path – I would implore you to go for the Blue-Chip company.

This is because it makes your cv read better, its usually more secure and really, moving jobs should be much more easier with that on your resume.


Hopefully one day while at your Blue-Chip job, you would dabble into creating a start-up yourself.

That’s it from Tuesday. Hope to see you back here tomorrow for Wednesday’s Office style.

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Break Work Stress Chains – Office Fashion -1st Week of 2015 Series

Break Work Stress Chains – Office Fashion -1st Week of 2015 Series



Hi guys,

I can’t even help laughing at the title of the post and its contents. As promised yesterday, I would blog my 5 work looks all through this week. So sit

back, grab a liquid, relax and make of this what you choose.


Today was such a hectic day btw, had to do a final tidy up of stuff at the office in Southwark. Met up with my mate, Maddy in Aldgate East, then another friend back at Southwark and eventually ended up at Canary Wharf to see a movie.


Day 1’s Look
Metallic Dress with Silver Details: Marella (sartoria) – Thrifted
Shoes: Zara – Sold out, similar here..
Bag: Marc B (Topshop) – Sold out, similar here..


So this year I have resolved to break any barriers or obstacles trying to set me back from meeting my goals. I spotted this chain dangling just by my security door and decided to use it to further explain my resolve. Lol.
 The issues wrap themselves around you comfortably at first..


 ..and then they want to choke you or make you not see clearly.. 


 ..you have to try to forge ahead and stay on track, remembering at all times, why you started.



 
..whilst also still trying to break free of negativity.



..and trust me you would..


 and you’d smile because the struggle was worth it..



 
Dust your shoulders off and on-to-the-next..




One thing I learnt from last year is that when there are issues that creep up in your life, do your best to ensure you have done all your bit to fix it..and when its not something you can control, leave it to God and focus on something else.
You cannot say you would stall your progress dwelling on negatives that arose from another situation. Just keep developing yourself.


That’s it from Monday. Hope to see you back here tomorrow for Tuesday’s Office style.

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