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Changes: How To Manage Previous Work Peers




Hi guys,


I was having a conversation with a friend of mine, D, where he was telling me about a colleague (now estranged friend) with whom he started his current job with. 

This mate of his didn’t get promoted when he did and has reacted proper weirdly….so now its so difficult being friends with him because asides the fact they cannot relate based on work duties anymore, his friend doesn’t seem to want to remain friends. 
D literally goes to spend some of his free time at his mate’s office but that still isn’t helping.

When I heard this, I remembered an a case study from a HBR article – about bossing former peers – I had studied in the past and decided to make this our topic for Day 3. This post would basically be a mixture of the article and my thoughts.

For our outfit of the day (OOTD), I embodied the first word in our title, ‘changes’ by changing my footwear. LOL.


Day 03

There are obviously no stringent rules to follow when your former equals become your subordinates, most of how this can be dealt with depends a lot on your leadership style and your type of organisation but find below some steps/ways to make this easier.


a. Start softly: Do not come in with an ego or trying to make drastic changes in your team. Tread lightly. Its okay to change things like the meeting times, your new deputy or a form of team procedure like a roaster. Start with lighter things then when you get to understand your team better you can progress to bigger changes which should be in the best interest of your colleagues.

b. Pull yourself away: Contrary to what my friend above, D, is trying to achieve, experts Sutton and Watkins both believe you shouldn’t be close to ex peers.
“You can’t continue to have relationships in the way you did before. 
This is a loss for everybody but it’s part of the deal,” says Watkins. 

So basically try to reduce your social outings with your subordinates. Also you do not want to be seen as partial so staying clear of unnecessary friendships is recommended.

“If you’re not feeling a little bit lonely and left out, that can be a sign that you’re not distancing yourself enough,” says Sutton.

c. Remember you also now have a new boss: Though our focus here is former mates, its necessary to note that for a credible stand as a new leader you need to develop a good relationship with your new boss as that can pose challenges as well. The progress of your team would always make you look good but a good rapport with your new leader would be very advantageous for you and your teammates.

d. Dealing with the ‘loser’: One of your mates might have been eyeing your new position. This makes the situation more complex. You should either leave things be and let them adjust naturally or according to Watkins say something to them like; “I understand you’re disappointed. You’re an important part of this team, and I’m going to make sure you have what you need to succeed.”LOOL, I might give you the daggers if you tell me this though. *sigh*

e. Try out new personas: Okay so I do not know if this is necessary but the experts think it is so..
(word for word).. Because you need to determine new ways of interacting with your former peers, you’ll likely need to try a few things out. “Nobody is going to get it right the first time,” says Sutton. He suggests you try what INSEAD professor Herminia Ibarra calls “possible selves.” These are subtle variations in how you lead. By experimenting with different ones, you can figure out what works and what doesn’t. Sutton warns that you’re not drastically changing your personality, or your leadership style, but you’re prototyping to see what works for you.

The HBR article was written by Amy Gallo who is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review. Follow her on Twitter at @amyegallo.


 Top: Liverpool Street Market
Skirt: Zara
Bag: Moschino
Shoes: Charlotte Olympia (flats) and Hobbs (heels)


In summary, ease into your new position without making instant drastic changes and try to get honest feedback from your former equals. Remember to develop a good relationship with your new boss and be a credible leader.


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 Shoes: Charlotte Olympia


Shoes: Hobbs


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“Creativity is a function of leadership. It requires navigating uncharted territory and having the courage to face adversity to bring your vision into fruition.” – Linda Naiman

Career Path Choice: BLUE Chip vs SME




Hi guys,


I hope you enjoyed day 1 of my first work week of 2015 series. Yesterday’s was few tips on breaking walking through negative situations. On the series today,
we would be talking making a decision between working for a Blue-chip cooperation or an SME (or start-up).

Quick Question: Would you rather be a big fish (eja nla, hello D’banj.. lol) in a small pond or a small fish in an ocean??

On this post, I would just highlight the advantages of both choices and give a final tip at the end of it. As always all that talk would be mixed up with pictures from the Outfit Of The Day which relates to our topic somehow. Lol, exciting times.

As my social media friend, Grace Alex, @T2pitchy said in one of her posts I saw today, ‘I want to be able to tell visual stories worth sharing. I believe that any outfit of the day (OOTD) picture is as good as the stories we tell with it.‘ This is so what we are doing with the Work Series thing so I found it so interesting when I saw her caption. Also, this was the reason we did ‘inspirations’ for every look of people we featured for over a year when this blog started.


Day 02

The first struggle after graduation is usually getting that job offer in the first place. On this feature, we are going to assume that ‘wahala’ has been overcome and we are even spoiled for choice between a big and great company and a small/medium one.

Working with a Blue-Chip company has advantages like;

– Structure: These companies usually have been inexistent for a long time so there is a good plan for how graduates settle in and work across various departments and all that.

– Benefits: Things like healthcare, pension scheme and even better pay are usually associated with this organisations.

– Higher level of resources like trainings, opportunity to garner overseas experience at their other branches/offices. Stuff like this increase the technical know-how of its employers and their skills and exposure as well.

– Ability to withstand economic crisis thereby giving you a higher sense of job security should a melt-down occur.

For Small/Medium enterprises, these are some advantages;

– Wider experience opportunity in a shorter time compared to a Blue-Chip company due to the vast amount of responsibility that might be given to you. This is a good thing because you learn really fast on the job and you know or are even connected to how other aspects of the business are carried out really quickly to enable better relationship amongst departments

– Much more easy to get flexible work hours that suit you. There is a research that was carried out by the Trade Union Congress that found out that employers at SMEs were less stressed and less likely to be bullied

– Lastly, your impact is more likely to be felt when working with an SME.

All that being said, to be honest, if faced with the choice of these two – except in a situation where the role gotten at the Blue-chip company or the company itself isn’t in the same direction as your career path – I would implore you to go for the Blue-Chip company.

This is because it makes your cv read better, its usually more secure and really, moving jobs should be much more easier with that on your resume.


Hopefully one day while at your Blue-Chip job, you would dabble into creating a start-up yourself.

That’s it from Tuesday. Hope to see you back here tomorrow for Wednesday’s Office style.

That’s all folks. The Giveaway 02 winner has been announced  and another giveaway would follow soon.

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“I think there is beauty in everything. What ‘normal’ people would perceive as ugly, I can usually see something of beauty in it.” – Alexander McQueen

My Nigerian Designers Work Style Week





Hi Guys,

Putting up this post under two duvets, one pillow and honey+lemon mix in a hotel room where
I have to check out in 22 minutes. Ugh. 

My alumni (International Business class on 2011) reunion has come to an end, an exciting and nostalgic past 3 days this has been. I don’t know if this was part of the goals of our former tutors who organised the all expense paid trip but I feel like these friends I made while at Leeds are like family now. *wails* Never been good with goodbyes though you wouldn’t notice any trace of sadness looking at me. Oh well..

35 of us flown from Asia, America and Europe and well catered to at the Radisson Blu Hotel in Leeds, the reunion was geared towards finding a platform where we could all network with each other better. In between two fabulous dinners (Sunday and Monday) we all had to discuss amongst ourselves in tables of 10 on Monday on the way forward. I sincerely hope we kickstart something really serious soon. 

Okay, I think I have to put my luggage together and head to the reception at least.. Be right back guys..

Now on the train, had to say the final byes, took a couple pictures, ripped my jacket in the process, replaced and now on the train enroute London.

The #BuyNigerian campaign is one so dear to my heart so I decided to go all Nigerian this week to my office and then did a shoot.
Seeing as metrogypsie is all about versatility with work fashion, this post would be a Work & Afterwork looks of a said outfit.  
The outfits are from some young and upcoming brands which I think show promise and one much more established brand. They all have different strategies and way they run their labels (obviously) and I love them all and what they stand for.


Monday

1. WORK in AYABA



Bag: Marc B (large sold out, get the mini giselle here)
Shoes: River Island (on Asos, find the all black ones here)
This multi-way striped dress is such an elegant look for a Monday. Its length and neckline are very conservative and fitting for the whole first day of the week demeanour everyone sort of has.
The waist as well, that cut makes it appear smaller hence giving one a lovelier curve. It also has a cute cut outs by both of the collar-bones.
N12,000 – N15,000
£42.65 – £53.13


AFTERWORK (shopping in AYABA)



Red Shoes: TKMaxx Germany (Love them so much but my fat feet are about to rip the stitches at the higher end of it off, lol get patent version here)
White Messenger Bag: Zara (similar one available here)
I was torn between two bags, so I used this one to go shopping earlier and switched to the one below.


AFTERWORK (Drinks with friends in AYABA)



Bag: Forever 21 (similar one here)
Yeah, so this is a bit match match but I still love it love it.








Tuesday

2. WORK in Chechi Arinze



Bag: Lous Vuitton (get the Mirabeaux GM here)
River Island (similar one here)
White Tank Top: Primark
Yellow Jacket: Lovely Wholesale
Chechi Arinze’s finishings are the very best. Loved this skirt, beautifully cut out accentuating one’s hour glass figure from the bottom. The fabric mix is very work friendly too. Wish I got more ready to wear clothes from her but I had to travel a couple days after I got my item.
I have featured the lady behind this brand on the blog in the past, click to see a week in her work style wardrobe.
N8,000 – N10,000
£28.45 – £28.82



AFTERWORK (Mate’s birthday dinner in Chechi Arinze)



Crop Top: Topshop
Clutch: 212 Duty Free Gift
Shoes: Christian Louboutin
Quite an easy transformation from the outfit I wore to the office. To be honest, these shoes are such a huge pain, you should have an alternative or sit down for most of your time out. Be careful not to get too stuffed to avoid a belly bulge.
Last pose inspired by one of my past features here.)








Wednesday

3. WORK in Knoye Kouture



Bag: Same as Tuesday’s WORK
Shoes: New Look
Top: Random Store
This top was actually made with an extremely beautiful top with an amber coloured stretch cotton fabric mixed with the fabric of the skirt at the sleeves. I wasn’t in the mood to be all match hence my choice of top. The skirt has pockets and its fullness is so glam!
I have featured the lady behind this brand on the blog in the past, click to see a week in her work style wardrobe.
N2,000 – N4,000
£7 – £14


AFTERWORK (shopping and calling in Knonye Kouture)



Orange Crop Top: Topshop
Orange Purse: Camden Town Market
Yellow Sandals: Guiseppe Zanotti
I’m so obsessed with crop tops and you can see how much I enjoyed taking pictures in this skirt.






Thursday

4. Work in Elegante by Tiannah Styling



Bag: Same as Tuesday’s WORK
Platforms: Aldo (get it here)
Don’t you just love the cut outs of this dress. It has a lovely feel on the skin and just screams spring. Might not work as a work wear in a really cooperate environment though. You can always rock it to something else that’s work related.  I really love the pattern combination.
N45,000 – N50,000
£160 – £180



AFTERWORK (Cocktail Event in Elegante by Tiannah Styling)



Vogue Covers Cut-Out Purse: Thrifted
Sandals: Lipsy






Friday

5. WORK in Knonye Kouture



Bag: Celine
Shoes: Pamars
As you might agree this outfit really works for a Friday at places where dress down is the case. You could pair the skirt with another top if you aren’t sure you can pull this off together.  The slit is so gorgeous exactly where it is. The fullness of the peplum got me.
Ordering from Knoye Kouture is also very easy as they are really flexible with your wants and needs. They also deliver to any and everywhere. They are also relatively affordable, just beautiful.
I have featured the lady behind this brand on the blog in the past, click to see a week in her work style wardrobe.
N5,000 – N8,000
£17 – £28




AFTERWORK (Dinner Date in Knoye Kouture)



Sequinned Top: Mssguided
Sandals: Topshop
Clutch: TKMaxx







Saturday

6. WORK in 1463



Lacey Skirt: Miss Selfridge (get similar colour here)
Sandals: Dorothy Perkins (had since 2010)
Beat by Dre Headphones: Gift
Bag: Same as Monday’s WORK
I got the 1463 t shirt 4 years ago at one of the LPMs in Lagos and decided to include it in this post because I really like the top. Tshirts can be worn to the office in loads of ways irrespective of the corporation’s dress code. Today is Saturday so I am actually working overtime.
Click for previous post published in YNaija for styling Tees to work.




AFTERWORK (Sight-seeing in 1463)



Messenger Bag: Sames as Monday’s 2nd Afterwork
Booties: Republic







Sunday


7. Day in Itunu Fabrics



Back: Same as Tuesday’s WORK
Sandals: Kurt Geiger (shoeaholics.com)
Pictures don’t really do the sharpness of the colours on this silk fabric enough justice. I actually loved it more when I got my outfit. They deliver worldwide and are flexible with your needs too.
I have featured the lady behind this brand on the blog in the past, click to see a week in her law school style wardrobe.
N6,000
£22 – £25




Quoted prices are all subject to fabric availability, the styles you want, exchange rates and all what not.

Yes, so that’s all for this week and probably next guys! I know we all love the international brands but always try a mix. Support Nigerian designers because it would only lead to job creation and innovation. Buy Nigerian Buy Nigerian Buy Nigerian.

Our next post would have pictures from all the plentiful events I’d be attending this weekend and next week. Also pictures from my alumni reunion like these ones;






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Email: metrogypsie@gmail.com

Do have a lovely week ahead guys..


xx













“The dress must not hang on the body but follow its lines. It must accompany its wearer and when a woman smiles the dress must smile with her.” Madeleine Vionnet.

One Year Anniversary Special




Hi guys,


Metrogypsie is one today !!!!!! I’m supposed to publish posts on Tuesdays henceforth but seeing

as its the anniversary today I changed plans. :). So yeah, obviously we would do something different this week and then next week, we should have something special as well. 

I am so grateful to all of you that feature, READ and share my posts. You mean everything to me and make this more worthwhile. THANK YOU !


metrogypsie
/ˈrɛtrəʊdʒɪpsi/
adjective
  1. 1.
    denoting of a style or fashion that transcends from serious to laid-back
  1. 2.   style genre.. relating to versatility of a particular look clothes, music, or style
    3.   a work fashion brand

Okay, that was just for clarity. 🙂

Lets get right into our features..

Goke Omoluyi



He is totally on that metrogypsie ish with this smart and chilled out look he’s got going.

– Favourite Fashion Item?: My favourite fashion item at the moment are a pair of Zara tasselled loafers. They dress up any outfit I have on and add a dapper touch to everything.

– Your take on work fashion?: Fashion at work is inspiring. Its refreshing to see that people actually pay attention to how they look while at work and it classes up the place. 
That being said, don’t over do it. Its a work place not a fashion show.



Diana Edeh



– Favourite Fashion Item?: I’ve got two of them.. Shoes and Lipstick. 🙂

– Your take on work fashion?: Fashion while  at work is comfort and expressive.



JS Stylefigure



– Favourite Fashion Item?: The Bowtie which is the highest accessory in men’s fashion! So its my website’s logo.

– Your take on work fashion?: Ah ok! For me, this fashion thing is an art.. It’s a way of people showing who they are, inspiring people without actually telling them. Its another way of self expression.




Onyeka Udechukwu



– Favourite Fashion Item?: The Little Black Dress. Always a standby. dressy or smart casual. Also perfect for the office or after work hours. HELLO METROGYPSIE.

– Your take on work fashion?: I cannot imagine life without style. The confidence and personality it brings out in you and in front of your clients. It sells for sure.




Segun Ayandele



– Favourite Fashion Item?: For men, I always wear a nice bracelet and watch, and no, not the chain bracelets.
For ladies, earrings and the necklace and bracelet as well. Not a fan of waistbands or anklets.

– Your take on work fashion?: For me yea, fashion means it all. Its one of the many ways I can show my individual uniqueness. My dressing shows my expression to the world. At work, we dress to suite our jobs and lifestyle. A farmer wouldn’t wear a 3-piece suit to the farm right? At the end of the day, fashion is whatever makes you feel good about you, but hey, have some decency too. Lol
So yea, I agree with fashion at work so long as its appropriate.




Sally Iriri-Adegoke



– Favourite Fashion Item?: My favourite fashion item is my pair of Jimmy Choo pointy toed shoes, they are a super comfortable classic and are always in my car for whenever I have to switch from casual to chic in the course of my day.

– Your take on work fashion?: Fashion at work is underrated. As a screenwriter, my mates would disagree with me. 




Tyvn



– Favourite Fashion Item?: My Buddha to Buddha bracelet (made of silver and leather).

Tyvn (out of the coveralls)



– Your take on work fashion?: Personnels on the rig have to wear the boots, coveralls and glasses for safety reasons. They wear it cos its mandatory and sometimes it doesn’t fit right. 
There’s a difference between wearing your clothes and owning it or getting completely worn out by the colours, shape or size of what you wear. 
Truth is we live in a very visual society where everyone is judged by their appearance. 
Fashion is how you carry yourself in whatever it is you wear, poise, charisma, character.



Yewande Sobamowo



– Favourite Fashion Item?: Pencil skirts

– Your take on work fashion?: Fashion at work is Critical to build the image required for excellence. Think gladiators in suits.





Machu Atuanya



– Favourite Fashion Item?: Shoes

– Your take on work fashion?: It makes work bearable.





Stephanie Ij



– Favourite Fashion Item?: Pencil heeled shoes.

– Your take on work fashion?: www.metrogypsie.org.



So there you go guys. Thanks to all my features this week, was a real pleasure putting this together.

My profound gratitude goes out again to all of you who read this blog and my feature on the debut post, Maddy. 

Thanks to all who give me ideas like Onoja and Lizzie, lovely words and support from Alrhemist, Barbara, Andy, Amaka, Nelly, Oluchi, Sheisboki, Poshbug, Michelle, Ikechukwu and GorgeousBSkin (to name a few)… those of you who encourage me with your retweets, Lippielover, Purpletweetyb, Ade3uwa, Nwabiaije and loyalty; Nonye, Fola, Ujufanta and Adaora Och. 

Do have a lovely week and keep on reading.

Love you, yes, you!


xx






“Style is an expression of individualism mixed with charisma.” – John Fairchild.






PilOt | #HauteyOfTheWeek, Madalina. #Debut


Asides the day I took my Bloomberg exams, I cannot remember having to stare blankly at my computer screen this long. Whoop! there goes my first sentence.


Anyways, welcome to my blog people :). This is going to be something like a lookbook. Periodically, I would put up posts of people, mostly females. Each feature would have pictures (possibly a Monday to Friday thing) showing what the person had on on each day and what inspired that look. I have always been beguiled by work wear…not just items in a store labelled as office clothes or whatever but what a lady would eventually decide to wear while in a bid to secure the necessities of life..


This is basically the idea behind metrogypsie.  I only hope I would successfully juggle this with my really tasking day job.


So then, here we go..

Maddy
Occupation: Finance (Deloitte LLP, London)
Interests: Handball, Fitness, Meeting people, Music.






Monday


Cream coloured Jacket – H&M, 

Black/Grey Dress – French Connection UK
Shoes – Newlook
Scarf and Bag – Random
Sheer coloured tights

Style Inspiration: Okay so this is one of my ummmph work dresses.. I went for an art exhibition (fancy huh) on Sunday and met so many posh people so I was in high spirits on Monday morning lol. Was in the mood to get some office attention so, yes..







 

Tuesday

Black/White Jacket: My tailor back home (Romania)

Baby Pink with black lapel Jacket: Select
White Shirt: H&M
Skirt: Jane Norman
Shoes: Newlook
Sheer coloured tights

Style Inspiration: Today, I decided to look a tad serious and warm. I did not want to wear colour but managed red lip stick and a pony tail to look innocent too. *wink*

 





Wednesday

Black Jacket: Newlook

Red Dress: Collection
Shoes: Newlook
Sheer coloured tights

Style Inspiration: I had Victoria Bekham in mind while I dressed up this morning lol…okay maybe not with the length of my shoe heels. I am not sure why I’m smiling cos Steph made me almost strip in the cold. Anyway, I felt elegant and dressed elegantly. 





Thursday

Black dress: Dorothy Perkins

Jacket: Dorothy Perkins
Shoes: Newlook

Style Inspiration: I have two dates today.. *giggles* hence this my simple and classic number. Got back from my coffee date before this shoot. i love love this dress cos although the bottom is so tight without a slit, I walk slowly but really lady like as well and it accentuates my body real good. I love it for a first impression. My inspirations today were my dates basically. Steph made me stand like hangers…said its the model stance. Ha!





..and its Friday!

Dress: Topshop

Boots: Newlook
Style Inspiration: Lol, thats how this silly babe says she’s tired of typing.. So I’d handle this bit.. Mad is  a surfer chic in her daily style routine,,you know like em beach loving…life is always a beach sorta people. She likes to drape anything on and just chill. She really hates work clothes. Well yeah so she basically did same today. Its Friday and as you might already know we dress down over here. She had to do black tights as against sheer ones because I think the dress sticks to her body so much and the back goes really short at some point after she walks for a bit. 
 
I am not sure if these outfits truly depict me I actually love to wear make-up but mostly when I’m going out on a date or to party. Besides I was instructed to let my dressing flow with my moods and all that this week by you-kno-who. Yes and I really love Newlook shoes. I think they get super comfortable quickly and are extremely affordable. Besides she a Subject Matter Expert at work meaning she always has to patrol around her department, her comfort is imperative.
 
There it goes from Pink Scarf Madalina. Thanks babe for letting us have you on here.
 
Do leave a comment below on your favourite look and if time permits you, create a look of your own inspired by the outfits above.  A winner would be picked by Maddy who would then wear the look in a follow-up post.
 
Thanks guys,
Catch you next time.
*mwah*
 
“I wear my sort of clothes to save me the trouble of deciding which clothes to wear.” – Katharine Hepburn.
 
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