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Changes: How To Manage Previous Work Peers

Changes: How To Manage Previous Work Peers



Hi guys,


I was having a conversation with a friend of mine, D, where he was telling me about a colleague (now estranged friend) with whom he started his current job with. 

This mate of his didn’t get promoted when he did and has reacted proper weirdly….so now its so difficult being friends with him because asides the fact they cannot relate based on work duties anymore, his friend doesn’t seem to want to remain friends. 
D literally goes to spend some of his free time at his mate’s office but that still isn’t helping.

When I heard this, I remembered an a case study from a HBR article – about bossing former peers – I had studied in the past and decided to make this our topic for Day 3. This post would basically be a mixture of the article and my thoughts.

For our outfit of the day (OOTD), I embodied the first word in our title, ‘changes’ by changing my footwear. LOL.


Day 03

There are obviously no stringent rules to follow when your former equals become your subordinates, most of how this can be dealt with depends a lot on your leadership style and your type of organisation but find below some steps/ways to make this easier.


a. Start softly: Do not come in with an ego or trying to make drastic changes in your team. Tread lightly. Its okay to change things like the meeting times, your new deputy or a form of team procedure like a roaster. Start with lighter things then when you get to understand your team better you can progress to bigger changes which should be in the best interest of your colleagues.

b. Pull yourself away: Contrary to what my friend above, D, is trying to achieve, experts Sutton and Watkins both believe you shouldn’t be close to ex peers.
“You can’t continue to have relationships in the way you did before. 
This is a loss for everybody but it’s part of the deal,” says Watkins. 

So basically try to reduce your social outings with your subordinates. Also you do not want to be seen as partial so staying clear of unnecessary friendships is recommended.

“If you’re not feeling a little bit lonely and left out, that can be a sign that you’re not distancing yourself enough,” says Sutton.

c. Remember you also now have a new boss: Though our focus here is former mates, its necessary to note that for a credible stand as a new leader you need to develop a good relationship with your new boss as that can pose challenges as well. The progress of your team would always make you look good but a good rapport with your new leader would be very advantageous for you and your teammates.

d. Dealing with the ‘loser’: One of your mates might have been eyeing your new position. This makes the situation more complex. You should either leave things be and let them adjust naturally or according to Watkins say something to them like; “I understand you’re disappointed. You’re an important part of this team, and I’m going to make sure you have what you need to succeed.”LOOL, I might give you the daggers if you tell me this though. *sigh*

e. Try out new personas: Okay so I do not know if this is necessary but the experts think it is so..
(word for word).. Because you need to determine new ways of interacting with your former peers, you’ll likely need to try a few things out. “Nobody is going to get it right the first time,” says Sutton. He suggests you try what INSEAD professor Herminia Ibarra calls “possible selves.” These are subtle variations in how you lead. By experimenting with different ones, you can figure out what works and what doesn’t. Sutton warns that you’re not drastically changing your personality, or your leadership style, but you’re prototyping to see what works for you.

The HBR article was written by Amy Gallo who is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review. Follow her on Twitter at @amyegallo.


 Top: Liverpool Street Market
Skirt: Zara
Bag: Moschino
Shoes: Charlotte Olympia (flats) and Hobbs (heels)


In summary, ease into your new position without making instant drastic changes and try to get honest feedback from your former equals. Remember to develop a good relationship with your new boss and be a credible leader.


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Shoes: Hobbs


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“Creativity is a function of leadership. It requires navigating uncharted territory and having the courage to face adversity to bring your vision into fruition.” – Linda Naiman

Career Path Choice: BLUE Chip vs SME

Career Path Choice: BLUE Chip vs SME




Hi guys,


I hope you enjoyed day 1 of my first work week of 2015 series. Yesterday’s was few tips on breaking walking through negative situations. On the series today,
we would be talking making a decision between working for a Blue-chip cooperation or an SME (or start-up).

Quick Question: Would you rather be a big fish (eja nla, hello D’banj.. lol) in a small pond or a small fish in an ocean??

On this post, I would just highlight the advantages of both choices and give a final tip at the end of it. As always all that talk would be mixed up with pictures from the Outfit Of The Day which relates to our topic somehow. Lol, exciting times.

As my social media friend, Grace Alex, @T2pitchy said in one of her posts I saw today, ‘I want to be able to tell visual stories worth sharing. I believe that any outfit of the day (OOTD) picture is as good as the stories we tell with it.‘ This is so what we are doing with the Work Series thing so I found it so interesting when I saw her caption. Also, this was the reason we did ‘inspirations’ for every look of people we featured for over a year when this blog started.


Day 02

The first struggle after graduation is usually getting that job offer in the first place. On this feature, we are going to assume that ‘wahala’ has been overcome and we are even spoiled for choice between a big and great company and a small/medium one.

Working with a Blue-Chip company has advantages like;

– Structure: These companies usually have been inexistent for a long time so there is a good plan for how graduates settle in and work across various departments and all that.

– Benefits: Things like healthcare, pension scheme and even better pay are usually associated with this organisations.

– Higher level of resources like trainings, opportunity to garner overseas experience at their other branches/offices. Stuff like this increase the technical know-how of its employers and their skills and exposure as well.

– Ability to withstand economic crisis thereby giving you a higher sense of job security should a melt-down occur.

For Small/Medium enterprises, these are some advantages;

– Wider experience opportunity in a shorter time compared to a Blue-Chip company due to the vast amount of responsibility that might be given to you. This is a good thing because you learn really fast on the job and you know or are even connected to how other aspects of the business are carried out really quickly to enable better relationship amongst departments

– Much more easy to get flexible work hours that suit you. There is a research that was carried out by the Trade Union Congress that found out that employers at SMEs were less stressed and less likely to be bullied

– Lastly, your impact is more likely to be felt when working with an SME.

All that being said, to be honest, if faced with the choice of these two – except in a situation where the role gotten at the Blue-chip company or the company itself isn’t in the same direction as your career path – I would implore you to go for the Blue-Chip company.

This is because it makes your cv read better, its usually more secure and really, moving jobs should be much more easier with that on your resume.


Hopefully one day while at your Blue-Chip job, you would dabble into creating a start-up yourself.

That’s it from Tuesday. Hope to see you back here tomorrow for Wednesday’s Office style.

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“I think there is beauty in everything. What ‘normal’ people would perceive as ugly, I can usually see something of beauty in it.” – Alexander McQueen

Break Work Stress Chains – Office Fashion -1st Week of 2015 Series

Break Work Stress Chains – Office Fashion -1st Week of 2015 Series



Hi guys,

I can’t even help laughing at the title of the post and its contents. As promised yesterday, I would blog my 5 work looks all through this week. So sit

back, grab a liquid, relax and make of this what you choose.


Today was such a hectic day btw, had to do a final tidy up of stuff at the office in Southwark. Met up with my mate, Maddy in Aldgate East, then another friend back at Southwark and eventually ended up at Canary Wharf to see a movie.


Day 1’s Look
Metallic Dress with Silver Details: Marella (sartoria) – Thrifted
Shoes: Zara – Sold out, similar here..
Bag: Marc B (Topshop) – Sold out, similar here..


So this year I have resolved to break any barriers or obstacles trying to set me back from meeting my goals. I spotted this chain dangling just by my security door and decided to use it to further explain my resolve. Lol.
 The issues wrap themselves around you comfortably at first..


 ..and then they want to choke you or make you not see clearly.. 


 ..you have to try to forge ahead and stay on track, remembering at all times, why you started.



 
..whilst also still trying to break free of negativity.



..and trust me you would..


 and you’d smile because the struggle was worth it..



 
Dust your shoulders off and on-to-the-next..




One thing I learnt from last year is that when there are issues that creep up in your life, do your best to ensure you have done all your bit to fix it..and when its not something you can control, leave it to God and focus on something else.
You cannot say you would stall your progress dwelling on negatives that arose from another situation. Just keep developing yourself.


That’s it from Monday. Hope to see you back here tomorrow for Tuesday’s Office style.

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“If you have never failed before, you have never tried anything.” – Rina Chunga


Retro Clothes Work Week – Classic Silhuotte – Day One

Retro Clothes Work Week – Classic Silhuotte – Day One




Hi guys,


I just saw The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies and loved it. I am so not a movie buff in fact, I actually saw the previous one same time last year and slept off during the last quarter of it.

Anyways, my weekend was fab, achieved a lot. Now looking forward to my office team meal today, the rest of the week and the weekend. 

Games Evening this weekend too! Yippie..

This week, I would be dressed in some of my lovely retro looks. Retro is my favourite style genre so I would have a great time sharing these pictures with you.





Dress: Especially Yours (no links as this is vintage)
Bag: Michael Kors get it in black here



That’s all folks! Have a splendid week ahead.. See you tomorrow..

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How To Rock Fashion Week Like My Friends – LFW Day 2 and 3

Hi Guys, 


If you had seen the previous post here, you’d know this is an extension. So on this feature today, I would
be sharing pictures of our time at Somerset House on LFW Days 2 and 3.

LFW Day 2 with Ify – September 17 2014



Spring Elegance..


White Mesh: Topshop

Yellow Camisole: Topshop
Light Yellow Hat: Portobello Market
Pink Skirt: Asos
Chanel BoyBag Phone Case: @Pamboogie (instagram)
Yellow Fur Clutch: Topshop
Black Scallop Waist Belt: Topshop
Neck Chain: Gift
Socks: Primark (male section)
Sunglasses: Aldo
Shoes: Karl Lagerfeld for Melissa


 




The paparazzi were feeling guys though. I was so damn shy to say the least. Acting all awkward and stuff. Thank God Ify was there though, she was basically ‘gingering’ me. Arghh..



Sexy structure..








Take a closer look…



Oh YAS!!!




Some solo shots I managed to take…




We stepped outside Somerset and these crew were going crazy on the road.. Gosh I love Fashion Week!!!!!!!


** obligatory selfie **


 *** The End of Day 2 ***






Day 3 with Funmi and Uju – 18 September 2014

Okay before we commence I would love to inform y’all how I had to basically force these girls, to get their behinds to Strand with moi.
2 styling sessions and a concept creation later they agreed to come along.


Seasonal Black..

Black Beret: Liverpool Street Market
Black Corset Dress: Urban Renewal
Black Jacket: H&M
Bronze Neckpiece: Céline (inspired by Jay Z, the material i.e)
Glasses: Aldo
Black Boots: DKNY
Burgundy Portfolio Bag: Texier


With them girls.. Uju and Funmi
Hope you get the concept.. Lol!




The New Pretty..





Monochrome Queen..


There is no good and evil, there is only power and those too weak to seek it.” – J.K Rowling, Harry Potter and the  Sorcerer’s Stone


“What if evil doesn’t really exist? What if evil is something dreamed up by man, and there is nothing to struggle against except out own limitations? The constant battle between our will, our desires, and our choices?” Libba Bray, Rebel Angels



“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.” – Martin Luther King Jr.



Okay enough of these quotes and depth…


Friends that slay together…





Jacket off!




*Kiss Kiss*



*** Obligatory selfies ***




*** Minnie Marj Time ***



 I had an appointment after LFW so I switched shoes to suit my next destination.

Some of my features..

Swatch had a photo booth for pictures and a twitter competition so this last one isn’t a feature..
That’s it guys. I hope you have enjoyed both my days at LFW. There would be more pictures after London Fashion Weekend.


I would be there Saturday, 20th Sept. Do have a wonderful weekend.

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‘Fashion is what you’re offered four times a year by designers. And style is what you choose.’ – Lauren Hutton